She just went by...........

"Hey there,,, life just went by did you notice, while I kept preparing to get on with life I realized that all that was happening to me was life itself." We spend our time thinking about how we want to spend our lives, preparing to begin it, making sacrifices along the way. May be save those 100 bucks here, lets spend this time of our lives studying life will begin, lets get this project over with, this exam, lets this crisis pass, let the kids get educated may be the visit can happen next time..........and whooooossh life is gone what are we left with....life is not which has any starting point beyond birth it just keeps happening as we keep spending out time planning it and one day we realize it is over and we didnt do which we wished for, my be we got the biggest house on those EMIs and got our kids the biggest education but then what happened to the life which was ours.......The drive for security for safety high up in the Maslow's hierarchy of needs somewhere kills the passion for life itself. I our effort to secure our tomorrow we lose our today which we have in our hands. After all have you thought what would have happened had people like Van Gogh, or for that matter our very own freedom fighter's had thought about saving their own future and not done what they were passionate about....but to live a life fully what it takes is to live in the moment here and now..............may the free spirit prevail.

Love-Part II

Why have I called this love-Part II. Since usually mariage is seen as the scene to of the play of Love in India hence the title. Ask a single girl how she fields the questions on her "marriage" thrown at her every time she meets her relatives...I will document some of the most interesting one's which have ever been asked

• Before I started working the same thing was said a little differently "beta ab tumhe apne maa baap ko bhi ganga naha lene dena chahiye". Who's stopping them dude go right ahead and have a bath togehter whenever you want
• "Toh tum ek se do kab ho rahe ho." I felt like replying yeah I dont mind having babies aunty I am thinking of all the fun in between
• In work space as I was shifting from one city to another and was looking for a flat mate somebody suggested, "Find a permanent flatmate for yourself dearie isnt it time you did".
• Beta ab kis cheez ka intezaar hai ab toh acchi job lag gayi hai settle ho jao. For girls "settle" means shaadi. Aunty I am as settled as I like the rest will only "unsettle" me.
• The funniest came from my younger cousins " didi aap shhadi kar lo na hamein naye kapde banvane hain". So now I should get married coz somebosy wants new dresses.
• And to top them all is yet to come...."beta late marriage ke baad bacche hone main bahut dikkat hoti hai"...Aunty please get your science correct....mid twenties is NOT late.

While I wish I would have given some of these answers outloud....but then you dont get everything you wish for.......

Love-Part I

Love...........I am sure this is going to catch the attention of a lot of people who visit my blog. Most probably a subject where everybody has something to say, contribute and share. So here is my share but this is not a biographical analysis of love but a cynics point of view on it. Sometimes I wonder why there is so much of hoopla on this emotion....I write this post in reaction to my being beaten senseless by "Happy v day" messages from friends, relatives and whomsoever I knew. I tried various tactics on this day...I started with "thanks same to you" thinking that this would be the safest way to get it off my back...but then worst was to come with this reaction being seen as an encouragement I was bombarded with calls from females...."What place should we (they and their finace, boyfriends etc...) get booked for dinner tonight, everything is booked" my rational answers to options where bookings might be available were " Hey! that is not romantic enough.Thats's is a place you and I go out to everyday (my poor bruised ego)". So I tried getting rid of it by suggesting some places which I knew would fit into their ideas as romantic but unavailable but to my disgust instead of calmed nerves it resulted in them raving and ranting about how those places were not available and they had tried everything. But the the words which seemed to do the trick with them was "Hey honey does it really matter where you go, it is the company that matters; how much fun you have with him.....and my dear friends as emotional as they were bought into it and the same places which were unacceptable to them till fifteen minutes became attractive because they would not be crowded and they would have some time for being together....or whatever I said as it came to my mind"

Different

Recently was going through this blog and read a very old line "what are we without our hopes and dreams". But sometimes I wonder what are we even with them. Are we as different from each other as we think..atleast we all do like to think that we are different and unique............I often think that all over there are common themes which link all themes, hopes, dreams, actions almost everything you can think of under the sun. The dream that I see today must have been seen by someone else yesterday and will be seen by somebody tomorrow. The emotion which I am going through today whether joy, sadness or indifference would have been experienced by someone yesterday and will be experienced by someone even tomorrow. Even we go through similar situations and call it "deja vu". The point which I am trying to make is that are the differences which we try to emphasize important enough. We all go through lives trying to prove how different and unique we are.....I have heard this statement so many times..."i cant explain it is different".(also a famous tagline for a ketchup goes something like this)...but the question to ask is "Is it different in a way which is important or is it different because we have chosen to make it look diffferent". Is it not important that instead of noticing the differences between everything we start noticing the similarities among things. After all the greatness of human minds is because we have this capacity to unify things, classify them into similar blocks and learn. Then when and how did we start noticing these differences between castes and regions and forgot to look at the bigger picutre of being humans, similarity of emotions whatever the geography, time, era..........My this post is inspired by a book which read recently "The kite runner"

Questions

Life throws situations and questions at us all the time and we keep fielding them.... sometimes we try and duck them and when we are sure of what we want in life we face them fair and square. But do we really know answers to any of these questions or do we always pretend to be in control of the situation............have you ever wished that some questions were never asked....I have wished it more than once but the more I have tried to avoid answering them the more they stare in my face.........sometimes I just wonder is it only me whom these questions are asked or are there others who also go through this dilemma..One question which always bothers me is..."What is the purpose of my existence" and above all "how important it is to know one's purpose for existence". "Is there actually a purpose for anything to happen or are we just a result of principles of randomness where lots of happy or sad(depends on who is evaluating) coincidences (read brownian movement) resulted in what I am." I dont even know if these questions are important enough or just a result of a lot of chemical reactions in my mind....

A new beginning

My first post in the public domain I feel a little nervous and a little excited. Sometimes I wonder why am I doing this, will I just get bored of it along the way and leave it or will this be something i will get hooked on to for years and......but whatever it is I look forward to it.Amen