Relationships!

I wonder about the complexity of life and the web of relationships we create. What is more important as an aspect to understand is how to handle these relationships. The very essence of a relationship is trust, transparency and truth. Any relationshipas a matter of fact whether it is between friends, siblings, parents, in-laws, husband wife or whomsoever has to be based on fearless and forthright communication. I believe once there is an element of fear from any side the relationship heads towards a downfall and it is important to correct it early on. Let us explore why the factor of fear could creep into a relationship.

• Imbalance in a relationship: One person is more committed to the relationship while the other feels that he/she can walk out.
• Financial security provider: Typically in a husband wife relationship
• Physical violence: Sometime parents and also husbands and wives
• Established authority: Often parents and child or husband and wife
• Emotional dependence: Could be similar to the first point

I could think of these as some of the reasons for the imbalance. I guess the bigger question to ask is how to handle this imbalance? How to correct it? What is the balance between being firm and demanding that it be set right or just going along with the flow. The reason I am saying the latter is that in any of the above condition the element of love is not necessarily missing. In many cases the love between the 2 individuals is entirely intact, however there are issues on which differences crop up. In our parental generation often our mothers were the home makers and our fathers continued to dominate the scene because of the second factor. Sometime generation gap plays a big role in creating some of these differences while in some cases just a difference in gender perspective creates these difference entirely. However, whatever be the reason the challenge I guess is to help a person see the other's perspective bridge the gap without scarring the relationship.